Living with a flow…My Take on It!

There’s been a thought that has crossed my mind a number of times over the last couple of weeks, but actually when I reflect and look back, I think it really started at the beginning of this year. Suffering from personal losses, I engaged in a lot of inner reflection, breaking down with emotion what my mission was to be serving in this life. The thought was around setting life expectations and how there was no flow…that there was too much expectation, too much ‘planning’ and that it all needed to be undone. I felt there was too much control from the past. I needed to let go, let life flow! I felt I needed to put my thoughts about this process down in a written piece to really reveal truthfully how I feel about all of this.

Personal loss can be interesting because very often it can shake us down to the core as humans, breaking down the identity we form over the years, either through environmental or societal exposure, seeking to forge a recognition and life path we feel will help us achieve that which inherently our soul so demands of us!

My own experience of going through personal loss over the years has actually brought a lot of humility, and more interestingly an authenticity and acknowledgment that the way I have been approaching life is not really in my best long term interests. Sure, if one was to look at my life materialistically, I would say I could be grateful for the family, friends, relationships and moments and experiences I have had, apart from the mundane like having a house and car, a luxury many we seldom forget don’t have in this rarely impartial world.

The humility felt came from knowing that things needed to change without the feeling of a need to control or set path to live my life on.

Here’s what I think fundamentally has changed for me: growing up I always set expectations of achievements, desires, and goals by a certain time…like settling down by the time I was 30, having kids by a certain age, maybe even achieving a great business by the time I was in my mid 30s. Obviously these did not materialize at the set time frames or with the expectations I imagined back then.

As time has passed, I ‘tied’ myself to my expectations, to the notion of achieving within these timelines. I didn’t adapt, at least not in the earlier years. I think many of us in adolescent years tend to set such expectations. But for each of us, we often get lost and forget that ‘life’ sometimes has other ideas; when Life breaks a path we think we are comfortably moving on towards our goals, it can really break our inner foundation…at least initially if not permanently.

So over the last few years many events didn’t lead to what I initially set to hope to achieve or to expect. For instance where I thought I would achieve certain career objectives with certain action steps I took, I still didn’t achieve some of these. Then there were many times I thought a certain relationship, romantic or otherwise, would materialize but oddly enough events never led to favorable outcomes for such relationships to occur. And often when things didn’t go the way I wish they had, I felt a deep sense of resentment and frustration setting in.

Now I know some will say but that’s life (and they’re entitled to that all so cliche of statements)! In essence what this process did  was really reveal for me how sometimes we can get too attached, wanting to control the way we want our lives to turn out, often forgetting there is a mysterious journey to the flow of life, something unexplained, even getting me to acknowledge there is a higher guiding force directing situations for our own personal benefit even when it’s not physically apparent at the time.

I realized during these last few months I had become too attached, too concerned about the expectations of certain situations. And eventually I realized it was creating a tension and hold in me, a tension and hold that really didn’t let me progress with a smooth and peaceful flow; just like Bruce Lee once said that we should adapt to life like water does in a “shapeless” form, with water ever changing and ‘flowing’ according to the situation.

Where I once had expectations from friendships, I find I no longer need to…it was a case of realizing that some friendships served a time limit, a purpose to help in my own growth as a person…and if there was to be a long term purpose for a certain friendship, it certainly would have served a longer term. Don’t get me wrong, I have many life long friendships I truly value…but if a certain person in a friendship grows or changes, sometimes we need to let go of the expectation that that friend will always be around in the same vein we would think they would be.

Then there are encounters where I would have sought to have control, to try to take action where I thought I could create the perfect scenario for an expectation I had. Now I find I let it go…I let the flow of life come in and let it allow it to be a part of my progress and growth as an individual.

In a career or business sense, where there is an objective to strive hard for certain milestones or achievements, I realized I can no longer get attached to an outcome because there are many factors which are out of my control…for my own sanity I just need to let it go, let things progress, while I take action without expectation.

Does it mean I don’t form anymore expectations? Not at all, I am still human, but now I feel there is a greater awareness of this and letting things flow in their natural order. In a sense I feel letting go actually releases a lot of anxiety, while also allowing the freedom and space for a lot of creativity. And interestingly I feel every outcome which arises or arrives from my letting go actually serves a purpose for my growth, even if the situation is perceived to be painful or bad.

This space has allowed to reevaluate a lot on how I approach general situations in life now. Looking back now I remember moments when I would really feel upset because I had an expectation on an outcome and when that outcome didn’t materialize as I wanted to, I got really disappointed and would close up as a person.

In a way I think living with a flow also allows one to live life, ironically, on our own terms. Oddly some expectations we set because we want  to achieve it because we think that’s what family and friends expect of us. We forget though as individuals we need to form our own path, a path where we let the Universe reveal the direction, the purpose, and the mission that our souls really direct us towards…and that’s why  we should live in flow. When we do this we start experiencing the coincidental events, the universal language of communication telling us we are on the right path (but with patience).

It’s early days, but let’s just say I am beginning to accept the Yin and Yang of the Universal song that life can offer.

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DAILY SIDONIM- HABITS

Have you looked at your habits lately? Are they habits that will lead you to become a successful person? Our habits in essence determine how we act and hence how successful we become, regardless of our pursuit or ambition. Habits are a form of energy…bad habits means bad energy that ultimately makes you procrastinate on many things as opposed to taking action and becoming successful on every level. Psychologists say it takes 30 days to break into a new habit permanently. Now what if you could change one small habit and try it for at least 30 days every day? Think it’s easy? Try it and give it a go. But watch your HABITS, for your habits ultimately determine the character you will be.

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F for Focus!

FOCUS. How many countless mentors, teachers, Gurus, business coaches and the like use this word in their teachings. We know Focus is a great quality to have, applicable both in our personal and career areas. Often we think of it in the grander scheme of things. But, have we have ever thought of focus in the smaller things?

Do we focus much in that short business meeting, that call we are busy with, that email we are currently writing, or the show we are watching? I am talking about a deep focus on each of these such that those things matter in the PRESENT, the NOW! It’s a focus where nothing else matters, even for a minute. Too often in these small matters we tend to forget the Focus that is required…there’s too many distractions to whisk our attention away, even for a second. Even the clutter in the mind during these moments becomes too loud and we lose our focus.

So today as you make that call, go for that meeting, or are busy in a creative pursuit, remember to have deep FOCUS!

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20 for you!

What’s the number 20 represent for you? Nothing really much you would say, but the number 20 could have a big impact for you in the future. Here’s why: if you wake up at 5 every morning, you have an hour where you could potentially be a step ahead of everyone. Starting with 20 minutes of exercise, then 20 minutes planning your day, and finally rounding off by having 20 minutes of reading or watching something motivational and inspiring! Think I am nuts? Then watch this below and you will know why:

http://www.extremeachievementformula.com/fe/54867-how-to-wake-up-early

Here’s to your 20 minutes of inspiration! Oh, in case you are wondering, yes I do wake up at 5 every morning now 🙂

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30 Lives

I was just thinking of the phrase that a cat has 9 lives. Do we ever for one moment think that every time we go into a new year, we actually have another life? We often take it for granted how each year goes and passes by. You may be wondering why I had this sudden moment of reflection. Well when you turn 30, you hear of people either complaining or thinking how great it is going to be going into a new decade that supposedly promises much!

Well it’s strange to think, but I feel like I have had 30 lives. I mean lives in a good way. We may not realize it at all, but each year we turn a new leaf we are actually a new person that has grown more. It’s like we have been rewarded a new life! But some may be pessimistic and say that it doesn’t always turn out for the best. It’s not about whether it turns out for the best or not. It’s about how we see a new year in our life and how we will approach it going forward.

So when you see yourself turning 30, 40, 50 etc think about another life you have in the coming year! Celebrate living longer than a cat!

This is Funjabi Guy wishing you a safe and happy weekend! Till next Friday.

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Bustling away!

I’m sitting in a busy food court in down town Dubai and I can hear a constant bustling sound. It’s those sounds of those gossip movers, those fast paced ambitious youths, and the ageing experienced work warriors. Then a thought occurred to me.

Do we ever take note of all this constant movement, and maybe just once realise the impact of being still or motionless at a point in time? Of course there is all this theory abound about meditation, the power of now, being in the moment and on and on and on the list of highly expressed descriptions is given. But it appears these very souls who converge at this very moment are privy to such notions and don’t understand or are not at an emotionally intelligent level to understand the impact of such stillness!

Of late I have pondered about how often we as an intelligent race take a step back and notice the mad rush people are in, like headless chickens trying to escape from the impending doom of another chop by the knife, the knife of the rat race.

There is of course some joy for some in this constant bustle, a sense of being on a high, albeit a fleeting high. If you think about those moments where all this noise or bustle was not prevalent, you may have felt a certain power, an energetic power. I wonder if this power is a reminder of the inherent potential in all human beings…we just need to slow down and take a step back.

So next time you find yourself in that moment, think of the power that has taken you thus far in your life. Then you can proceed to bustle away with a fulfilling purpose!

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Is Happiness Around the Corner?

Hey guys,

So I am being different today and thought I would put up a post of a message which I think a lot of people need at this moment in their lives! Let the happiness flow! Here’s the message:

For lots of people, happiness is just around the corner. They just need to get their degree, a particular job, a promotion, or a raise. Maybe they’re waiting to get married or have a child. Perhaps they will be happy when they retire. Alfred D’ Souza said, “For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.” John Lennon put it another way, “Life is what happens while you are making other plans.” The point is our lives are happening now. If we are to get the satisfaction and fulfillment we want, we have to learn to draw pleasure and joy from everything that happens to us and around us because these experiences are the very essence of our life. The more conscious we are that life consists of the journey, not the destination, the more likely we are to get the most out of it. So, if there are things you want to do, begin to fit them in now or accept the fact that you can be happy whether or not you do them. Happiness isn’t just around the corner. It’s now or it’s never.

The good news is you have everything you need to be happy. Philosophers, poets, and scientists all agree it can’t be attained through money, prestige, or power. Happiness is not a fact, it’s a mindset. All you need is optimism and gratitude.

By Michael Josephson http://www.charactercounts.org